Old World Views?

I've never really considered myself old fashioned, but I guess I kinda am. But with a modern twist. I believe that then man is the head of the house. But I also believe in sharing decisions. My husband has never been one of those what-I -say-goes kind of men. He has always given me the respect to talk to me about any decision and I give him the same. But ultimatly, I give him the final say. 9.9 times out of 10 it is what we both agree on.

I guess what really throws me is that other people don't see things that way and I know that people have different opinions and that is okay. But let me give you an example...my husband is not with me right now but I tell him everything. Just like he was here. A week and a half ago, there was a murder at my job. After hours and I was not there anyway because my child was sick. But I was telling my friend that I was going to find another job, not just because of that-there are other circumstances, but that when I told my husband, he would make me quit anyway. Maybe "make" is not the right word, but he would not want me there and I am not going to do anything that he is not confortable with. We both agreed to that years ago. The friend I was talking to was seriously befuddled. "Why do you have to tell him?" she asked. "Because I don't keep things from my husband. And I would rather him hear it from me" was my response.

All I got was silence. She seemed clearly lost. This girl is 25 and on her 3rd marriage. In 22 days, I will celebrate my 10th anniversary. Now I am not knocking her number of marriages. That's her business. But when did marriage become something you toss away? They are like an empty milk carton..."Well, this one's done, lets get another" I just have never looked at marriage that way. And I promise you, my marriage is far from perfect. But in all it's craziness, we make it work. We compromise.  We talk to each other. We confide in eachother. We laugh together. We cry together. And through it all, it works.

So maybe I am old fashioned, but maybe that's not such a bad thing.